Here is a list of opportunities I have taken recently and how they affected my life:
1. 3 years ago I was offered the choice to start a family with the man I love 🙂
2. 2 months ago I was offered a job that will allow me to work from home 2-3 days a week and spend more time with my family and less time commuting.
3. Last year we took the opportunity to purchase an RV and park it on a resort for the summer, weekends at the cabin is now a part of our summer life. I love the relaxation it brings me.
4. 14 years ago I was asked to go to a movie with a great guy. We are still going to movies on a regular basis 🙂
5. Yesterday I took the opportunity to buy a cute little planter for my garden that will make me smile every time I walk by it.
Opportunites that seem small can have some of the biggest affects in our lives. I will get daily smiles from my new planter which will make every other part of my day better. That simple movie with a new friend was the start of a long relationship with a great guy. The decision to start a family changed everything about my life and also changed me for the better.
I am glad I took the opportunities that I did. I do not waste my time lamenting the so called “missed opportunities” in my life. If I did I wouldn’t be able to appreciate how the ones I did take have been so wonderful.
Understanding what it means to be a mother is impossible until you actually are one.
I was lucky in my life to have a sister who is 14 years younger than me. She is a wonderful woman and was a great baby sister. She was 4 when I left home but those first 4 years of her life taught me a bit of what it would mean to be a mother. I was old enough to understand, and the knowledge taught me to wait.
With the understanding that I had gained I chose to wait until I felt I could handle motherhood. I knew just how much i didn’t know.
Now looking back I am glad that I waited. Now I have the knowledge that I gained in those 4 years of helping to raise my “baby” sister as well as the 10+ years of things that I did in my 20’s that I couldn’t have done if I had children.
Now they are my life. Everything I do is for them. They have opened my eyes to see the wonder of the world through fresh eyes. I can give and provide for them in a way I feel proud of.
Everyone has one. Most people don’t think about it. Everyone should. Each person has multiple identities based on where we are in our lives and what we have done in the past.
As a professional in the world you have created an identity for yourself. People know you by the way you carry yourself, perform your job, and the things you say.
In your personal life you are identified by the family and friends you have. The interest you pursue and the decisions you make.
These days you also have an online identity that is the culmination of all things you have ever done or said on the internet. Some things are kept private while others are made public.
It is important to take some time out of our lives to think about how people in the world see us and how we want to be seen. Choosing to make decisions that help to identify who we are and strengthen who we want to be.
I identify myself as mother, wife, software professional, and wannabe yogi.